Simple Stress Busters

It's a lovely winter morning, I was getting ready for my office, suddenly the phone rang.

"who is it?" I asked my husband, he said it's your boss. 

 Boss, A very stressful word.

Suddenly all my thought about the morning changes. "what would have happened, did I do something wrong, what is it " all these thoughts running in my mind ruining my mood and my morning.

It's just like this is our day to day thought anything that seems like difficulty or our struggle to fulfill our demands or danger runs lots of thoughts in our minds. 

Any thoughts that challenge or threat a person’s well-being can cause stress. 

Stress is that sickness that can be good or bad. Wonder how?

Stress gives us the ability to stay focused, energetic, alert and sometimes in danger gives us extra strength to fight back. Stress helps you rise to meet up your challenges.

It keeps us on our toes during a presentation at work or sharpens your concentration while preparing for exams. 

But beyond a certain point, a stress is called a bad stress when, it starts harming you, your relationships, your mood, your behavior, your mental and physical health.

Whenever you feel restless, your mood swings, you start fighting or arguing on small statements or even jokes, or you feel like you are alone, feeling a headache or you felt restless nights.

Dude it's an alarming symptom.

Every doctor tells you to keep your stress level low. At that time, you all promise yourself not to be in stress anymore but can you able to keep that promise? well... I can't.

Even though I tried hard but can't keep that. I know it's harmful but what to do I can't help it, my thoughts are not in my control, I don't want to be in stress even anybody doesn't want this type of stress but what to do?

Everyone tells to keep away your stress, but nobody tells how?

So, after trying, suffering and understanding this problem, I came up with some simple but effective tips to keep it away from me. These are my own tried and tested methods, it works for me, maybe it will be effective for you also.

So, Here I go...

Feeling sleepless nights

Tried a lot but you feel sleepless. Take your phone handy and listen to smooth or old music and sing it along sometime. Listen to the music, feel it, try imagining yourself to be in it.

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Lie down on your bed, close your eyes and listen to the music, but remember to lower the sound, soft music can be a stress buster when listens in low volume. Soon you will be in your dreams. Go try it out.

If you feel like crying or your mood is so upset to try listening to sad songs. I know you are gonna say how can this be helpful but trust me all your stress will come out as tears, you will cry.

But your stress level will keep going down as your tears rolled down, your mind feels relaxed all the thoughts rolled out of your body and while listening and crying you will not know when you fell asleep.

Suffering from Mood swings

All of us now and then felt mood swings, according to studies, it is found that chocolates are very helpful while fighting to mood swings.

 You can opt for a low-calorie chocolate if you are a fitness freak or are on dieting. But trust me when that piece of soft and silky chocolate melt in your mouth and close your eyes try to feel it Mmmmm.... yummy isn't it. It will relax your mind.

Don't Use Social Media

Social media one of the worst things for them who are suffering from stress. 

Trust me it will not let your stress go away but will increase your stress level. 

Ever felt while you are in stress and opens or see pictures of others on the social media platform you will felt more stressful and your mood will become more unmanageable. 

So, keep yourself away from these platforms for a sort of time.

Read A Book

Reading book is not your hobby, don’t worry I am not asking you to read a novel or fiction or theoretical book. 

But you will love what I am gonna say now...any guesses ... no... ok, let me not keep you waiting ... I am talking about comics. 

Yes, you heard me right. I am talking about your childhood love, comics. It will keep you away from stress, the memories of your lovely childhood are all you need.

 Ah! A stress-free reading and a childhood memory trust me your mind will love you for this.

Last But not the least

All the women's out there will love me for this tip. 😊😊😊

Yes, you get it right I am gonna say shopping. This one is the best mood booster.

It's not necessary of course, that you do have a budget for that, you can also do window shopping or even a search of outfits or accessories on online shopping portal is gonna work for your stress relief.

On a funny note, if you had a fight with your husband or an argument or you are upset with some family issues, don’t think much and buy something for you.

 After all, let your husband pay for your bad mood so that next time he will think before arguing with you, that for all for this, only he will be going to pay. 😎😎😎

So, have a Laugh, fight your stress in some funny way and try to get out of this unhealthy stress.

And Do let others also know your stress busters.

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How to be a cool yet disciplined Parent

Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them. - P.J. O'Rourke

Being a parent is difficult we all know that but being a cool parent is far more difficult. Ever since in our childhood every one of us at some point in time wants our parents to be cool and understanding as our's friends parent. Didn't you? and thought that when I will become a parent I will be a cool parent, I will always take care of my kid's needs, buy them all the toys they want, take them for outing every weekend etc. etc.

But........ Does it really happen? Ever heard your child saying my friend's mom or dad listens to them, take them for an outing, her parents are too good. It comes to all of us now and then. So, That's the point...Am I like the parent I want to be?  Am I meeting the expectations of my kids?

Every One of us wants to be a star or an idol for our kids. But it's not really happening or you can't be perfect or meet their expectations every time. But by following some parenting tips we can be a cool, good, and somewhat nearly become a perfect parent. How ?... Let's see.....

What is cool parenting?

I've heard many people talk on this 'cool parenting' idea. It's interesting what makes a cool parent in some minds and what society has taught us about being cool. And it's more interesting to know what really makes a cool mom or a cool dad.

Every one has its own definition on this topic. It's not always good sometimes. There are some misconceptions also about being a cool parent. I also heard someone saying "No, I don't want to be a cool parent. These types of parents are always careless and always ends up having a bad attitude kid".

Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them. - P.J. O'Rourke

So, What's actually is a cool parent look likes? As per my thought "A cool parent is one that believes in his child, Always there for them but let them do the things their way, sets boundaries, but allows their children to be themselves, appreciate them, respect their feelings and show them a true path of success and being a good human being in life and who accept them for who they are."

I know now You are thinking, Every statement is contradictory. But it's true. A cool parent is one that changes the definition of being a cool parent with the time and situation according to their kid's needs.

1. Be Friend With Your Kid

The first step of being a cool parent is to be friends with them. Let them know that they can share anything, any type of problem, situation (that they can share with their friends) with you. As you do so soon they will start to open up about any problem going on in their life. But here comes the second tip.

2. Listen to them

Always Listen carefully to your child what they are saying either he is a toddler or a teenager. Don't interrupt them in between, don't give your judgment on any topic but give them suggestions starts with if I were at your place or if I were you or can tell them how you also face such things in your childhood. Trust me half their problems are solved when you listen to them carefully.

3. Involve In their Activities

Spend some time with them either it will be only half an hour or at sleep time whatever fits you. But ask them about how was their day every single day. It is necessary to be involved in their life. ask your toddler also. This will keeps you updated about their interests and their life. You can play with them, get to know their friends or you can also involve them in your day to day activity, whatever you feel spending time with them is the point. Choose at least a day for fun activities with them.

4. Be Calm

whatever be the situation keep your temper normal don't shout or scold them. If you feel like losing temper get off the place for a while and then return back with a calm mind and let them know the solution. you can only understand a child with a calm mind. Scolding a child always result in a rude behavior in child and they started getting away from you or show tantrums.

5. Let them solve their problem 

Dealing with problems is a part of growing up. A child is unprepared for the real world if a parent clears all the path for them. It's important to be alongside them but only as a support.

6. Keep an eye on everything

As we are in a tech world, every parent is more worried about their child's security. I will not recommend you to keep your child away from tech gadgets but keep an eye on everything. The children nowadays are smarter but you are their parents, you should be smarter than them. keep an eye on their social accounts, sites they visits etc. but in a smarter way. many apps are out there in the market. Be one step ahead of your child.

7. Make rules

As a parent you should be strict at some points I agree, but having rules and following them also includes you. Make rules for the family but make everybody agrees to them. Some of them can be

a) Return home at the time, or at least make a call home if you are going to be late and for what reason. this applies to you also as a parent.

b) No mobile time in the home or at least at the dinner table. If you have to attend a business call, attend in front of them. It will also make them attend their calls in front of you and you can be sure that they are not talking to anybody unknown to you.

Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them. - James Baldwin

These are my ways, of being a cool parent who listens to their child, support them but at the same time keep them safe and disciplined.

Tell me your ways of being a cool parent as we as a parent will keep learning new ways to deal with our tech era kids.

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Amazon Fire TV Stick Review

A question comes in mind.....We have lots of new generation TV connections available nowadays to choose from, so what's the need of an internet TV connection. Does it really worth it?  why should I opt it? What's its need? why spend on it while all other options are available?

all these questions are worth it when it comes to money and while buying a new connection. All of us thinks when it comes to buying a connection for TV. Of course, we have a lot more options available in the market now. Some of them even have recording options in it so what's the need for Fire TV.

Now let's imagine you have to buy two connections for your home then what? I will buy two set-top boxes what's the big deal with it? Right. But at once think again... you will buy two set-top boxes, pay twice the monthly bill, pay for wire connection and get the same connection and above of all you also want an internet connection as in this digital era nothing is important than an internet connection.

So, why spend too much. why not have an internet TV  as you are obviously going to spend on the internet connection after all. 

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now how it's different from others:

Firstly it is going to run on the internet, you can watch your programs on your scheduled time, and pause and replay as many times you want it, and you can also watch programs in your favorite language, no advertisements, and above of all no awkward moments in front of kids.

Benefits:

As I talk about it earlier, your program, your schedule, your comforts, your preferred language and I want to drive your attention to one most important benefit that I felt using it. Its... I can choose what my kid can watch or what's not.  

As now, many TV programs are unfit for children and many advertisements are not meant for them, but we don't have any choice to avoid kids to see those advertisements. In that case, Amazon Fire TV is very helpful, as you also get educational programs on it.

You can schedule your kid's timing to watch their programs.

Many of the cartoons are also from 90s TV serials like POPEYE, Jonny Bravo, Power Puff girls.

You can also relive your own childhood days and can share your memories with your kids. And you can also set the language preference for kids. like you can set English as default if you want them to learn English and can set it to Hindi if you want them to learn Hindi.

It is very helpful in developing vocabulary in kids as they watch their cartoons in the preferred language and can learn from them.

Drawbacks:

As far as per my experience the drawback of this technology is you have to take amazon prime subscription and a good internet connection, as well as there, are many apps for which you need to take a subscription. 

Finally, I can say A Young Thought, New Generation TV,  TV on your fingertips etc. etc. whatever I call it, it satisfies all the nicknames. 

So, As per my review give it a try. Willing to receive your reviews also. Write your review in the comments. Hope you like it! 

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Smartphone Addiction in kids

Sunday morning ….most awaited morning in the whole week, a lazy day and of course, a family fun day. I came up with a new topic idea this Sunday morning “ Smartphone Addiction.

All of us in 20's century are smartphone-addicted either its kids, teens, young or adult. In this Modern Era we can’t imagine our lives without a mobile. From morning to night we all spend hours and hours on mobile without even realizing that.

As soon as we open our eyes our day starts in search for our mobile and then next step is to check WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram or Twitter account and other messages and then replying for those messages and after this routine our day starts off. Starting the day with a cup of coffee or tea are now on back seat nowadays. Then jogging, getting fresh, breakfast, while driving to the office, in meetings, in lunch, on way back home and after getting home at the dinner table and even while sleeping. It's our only all day friend. One and only important friend these days.

Don’t get surprised to see a 2 years old handling mobile device independently. It is more often nowadays. It’s our modern era where a kid doesn’t learn how to take its first step firstly but knows how to unlock a phone.

I know you will say it’s a need of living nowadays all these devices make us more powerful and more independent. Yes, you are right on that no doubt. 

All these devices are also now used by schools to keep kids updated, introduce them to technology and it’s an interesting way of learning ..all these statements are true.

But with every great technology there comes a drawback. And some of the big drawbacks of this technology is its effect on behavior, on eyes, on socialization, and on our relationships.

Imagine your home gathering, what you see nowadays mobile in all hands. The whole family in one place but still not there.

At least we have something to tell our kids about the games we play outside, about our friends, about our experiences as a kid, our fun stories but what they have... to tell to their kids ? may be mobile games...

SMARTPHONE  USE MAKES PARENTS INATTENTIVE

Every parent worries about their kid's behavior these days. But no doubt on this.......According to recent studies these are drawback gifts of these devices. And above of all its only parents that are responsible for this problem in kids. Wonder how?............. let's see

Ask only one question to you

How much time you are spending on your phone?

Have an app that tells the mobile phone usage it will tell you the truth.

It's only our fault. We are the reason kids are glued to their devices. As kids learn to watch us.

When a crying child comes to you, or I can say disturbs you, Ask for your attention. What we do? 

Instead of paying attention to them, to their issues we handover them the mobile with a cartoon video. So, ultimately we are over the situation but giving kids a habit of the device.

Ultimately we are the villains.

So, Open your eyes be a hero, not villains.

Try some Healthy smartphone habits:

 Yup! It is possible to let your kids enjoy time on mobile devices without affecting their behavior problem. And for that all you need to do is just follow some simple rules:

 1. Set Rules.Set rules for all and stick to them. No mobile on the dining table, doing homework before using mobile. And when the whole family is in one place no mobile rule will be the best option.

2. Set Limits. Set the usage limit on mobile devices for all members at home. There are lot many apps to help you with this.

3.Set Warning. kids get so frustrated when they have to stop a game in the middle of a level. give them a 5-minute warning before they have to stop. Enough time to get to the end of a level. When that time is over, they know they have to turn it off. And if they don’t, they get 10 minutes deducted from their next allocated session.

4.Family Time. Start your day with some physical exercise with kids and then have a breakfast with them. Have a chitchat with them about their school about their friends. Go for skating, walking, swimming, or a place where there are a lot of physical activity for kids to do. Have fun being active together and your kids will get into healthy habits. Then you won’t worry about them chilling out for a bit on a mobile device.

5. Free Time If They have free time from their routine try involving them with some home stuff with you it will build a habit of doing their work themselves and helping others. Do painting with them or even reading a story for them will be a fine step.

It will help you improve your bond with them, overcoming your mobile addiction and slowly you see a lot of improvement in their behavior. Early you start, early you will see the change.

Try limiting your mobile usage and give more time to your kid it’s the only solution to this problem.

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Top Gifts For Kids This Festive Season

As Festive Season is ahead why not have talk Gifts. All of us are busy shopping decors, gifts, sweets etc etc etc........and the list is going on.....

Gits ..........a very thoughtful topic for all of us all around the year whether it is for birthday, anniversary, house warming, Diwali , Halloween , Christmas etc.

When it comes to gits we all stuck at a point........

So, there's a lot about talking on this topic. We all think about gifting to family, relatives , neighbors , friends but what about our kids?

Of course, They get lot from all others but the gift that are gifted by their parents means a lot to them and also there are high expectations from their side also. And it is necessary for parents too to be more specific as it will give them a chance to understand their feelings, be their best gift giver and to show them that they are not neglected and you care for them.

So, Let me talk about gifting to kids.......When it comes to gifting kids we all know their high demands, expectations and what they need should be not studious because as per their thinking any gift will not remain a gift if it is related to study .😄😄

 but when it comes to parents we all want something not just a toy but something more useful to them, something studious and of course worth for money.

I summarize some of my findings in just 7 points to give you a idea for this season's festive gift.
May be it will help you. So, Let's Begin..............

1. Alex Toys Early Learning Ready Set Paste Little Hands

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This will be loved by both boys and girls. This will keep them busy and give them a feeling of  being independent as it has pre-cut paper shapes and decorations to glue on . In this way they can also give their hands in decoration and give them as a return gift to all from whom they get gifts and also it will be a nice way of saying thank you by kids and for elders it will be a memorable return gift too.

2.  Micro Blocks

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Trust me give this a try, I personally love it... you can gift this irrespective of age. For younger kids it will need some guidance but trust me when it is done you will love it. You can use it as a showpiece or either gift them as return gift by kids to elders. It will be a lovely thanks giving gift.

3. Alex Toys Paint A Rockpet

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It has many options click on image and you can also find more like this. It will be fun for kids to paint on their own and as they wish.This can also be given as a return gift from kids.

4. Hamleys Street Gliders

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Swoosh. There goes your child. We all know the importance of outdoor activities in our life and in this technical era it is very necessary for kids to go out and play and be socialize. So, there it goes try these gliders which will become a reason for them to go out and explore.

5.  Indoor Football

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This can be a fun way of spending this holiday season with family and friends.

6. Kids Play Tent House

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A fun way to give your child a fantasy world of their own and have their own time in their own world.

7.  Xbox 360 with Kinect

Last but not the least . If  budget is not a problem for you then give it a try. It will be a more fun with kinect as for my personal experience  as it can involve you also in their games and at home ease. You can only download demo versions of games to start with but don't go for too many full version games as it will become more difficult for you to keep them out from it.Of course, there are may video games out there in market but spending too much on video games ....I don't think its a good idea. As these video games get to be out of their life for a while in higher classes I think. But if you are also into playing games yourself then it's worth to buy PS4 etc. 

So,  These are my top 7 list of gifts to kids for this season. Be creative with  gifts whether it will be any gift that you give them. 

But remember to gift them this festive season as a sign of love, care and fun.

Make your bond more stronger with them and one more thing ..... try to gift them a book also along with any gift either it will be of cartoon character or somewhat you want them to read. 

Spend some time with them reading stories for them this holiday.

With this note I m signing Off for this week now. Have a Great week ahead guys !............

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How To Make Kids Enjoy Reading

Introduction to Books

How to introduce kids to reading?  How to inculcate book reading in kids? these questions are always in parents mind.
As An Adult we all know the importance of books in our life and wants our kids to be book friendly also, as in this competitive world we all wants our kids to be good in studies also.

 IS IT POSSIBLE TO INTRODUCE BOOKS AS A FUN THING ?

The answer is yes, we all know how as a child most of us hates books and don't want to study until there is a test or we are forced to do so but.....

now situation is different as a parent we also want our kids to devote their time in studying more.

now there is a simple way of doing it.  Don't look like this "I really mean it".

Just start their reading journey with their favorite character.............

Nowadays , many cartoon books are available in the market with reading levels start with level 1 . Buy their favorite character book and gift them as their gift of this festive season believe me their first reaction is what you want to see . 

begin with accompanying them and read the book for them the first time. later on help them to read it, it needs sometimes from you but believe me its worth it.

Once they start enjoying the stories in your we time with them try to introduce activities books based on cartoon series books. It will keep them engage and they will also enjoy doing activities.

try letting them read alone starting with simple 3 letter words books. these books also have sight words column which help them to build their vocabulary . level starts from PRE-K . 
                             


Develop their reading skills starting with these books and after that you will see they will also enjoy reading stories and course books also. Its will be a  fun way for both of you to be attached at story time and in this way fathers even can also create a new bond with kids as fathers get less time with kids after a full working day at office, it will become a most loved time for your kids.

Give It A Try Trust Me It Will Work.

and Please let me know your views also.

Just click below on books and buy some now ................

                            



                       

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